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Is Chivalry Dead?

24 May

                        Is a little bit of chivalry too much to ask for these days?


      With all the new technology and with sex constantly on the tv, the radio, and advirtisements, chivalry has almost completely gone out the window.  People do not have to even talk face to face now.  They can just send a text, or an email, or a facebook message.  It’s all so instant.  Whatever happened to handwritten letters, phone calls, having an intimate conversation face to face? 


     These days, boys growing up have role models such as Tucker Max, or The Situation from Jersey Shore.  It’s all about getting laid, finding the chick who is DTF and please don’t let her be a grenade. 


       I think Emma Stone says it best when she plays character Olive Penderghast in the movie Easy A when she says,


“Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in 80s movies? I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80’s movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life.”


      Can anyone else relate to Olive here?  I don’t know about you, but a guy gets major brownie points from me if he opens the car door for me, comes up to my door to pick me up for a date, delivers me back to my door at the end of the date, picks up the phone and asks me out on the date, maybe brings a flower along for me when he picks me up.  Small, but simple things.  Not hard to do gentlemen.  Not hard at all.  Am I seriously asking for too much here? I don’t think so. 


  Instead I get ridiculous texts from guys such as this…


  “fb just does not do ur sexy ass ne justice we def need to hangout this wknd if ur gonne b here, im sure we could find somethin fun to get into saturday if ur down, itd b worth ur time though im kinda of a great guy to no ;)” 


I get that it’s texting… but please…. take the time to type out your words.  And sexy ass? Gosh, I just melted with that line.


“Have u seen the movie I hope they serve beer in hell?  This shits hilarious, homeboy just made a toast & said ‘theres beer n my glass & vodka n my cup & hers to fuckin her n the ass so she wont get knocked up’ lmfao i gotta use that sometime haha”


See what I mean by Tucker Max being a role model…


And people wonder why I am single these days.  Sorry, I’m not sorry that I am not willing to lower my standards just so I can have a boyfriend.   I would rather be single than put up with some lame excuse of a man.


Ok, I’m done venting.  Some day, my chivalry prince will come, but until then enjoy this picture of John Cusack from Say Anything.  I really do wish we were all still living in the 80s 🙂


Online dating

29 Mar

Okay, so honestly, I think dating sucks.  It’s awkward.  I mean, you meet someone, they ask you on a date.. you get nervous, don’t know what to wear, don’t know what to talk about, want to be cool as a cucumber and seem mysterious… then the actual date comes… and oh boy.. it’s the biggest awkward turtle ever.  At least , that’s how I am.  I would rather skip all of that awkward first date junk and already “know” each other and be comfortable with each other.  It’s a lot like how Vince Vaughn describes dating on the movie “The Wedding Crashers” …

So online dating.. is even worse.  You meet this person online, their profile makes them seem like the perfect person.  You start emailing them on there.  They seem great.  You start to fantasize about your first date with this guy.  You have all these crazy ideas of what his mannerisms will be like, and how he will treat you, and what you two will talk about, etc.  Then you start talking to the guy on the phone.  Great phone conversations that last for hours.  You two even start acting silly on the phone together and find some many common interests.  Once it’s time for the first date, you’ve got this whole wild idea of what he’s going to be like and you have all these high expectations.  Then the date is a total flop and you’re left feeling pretty crummy and lonely and begging God to please send someone decent your way. 

Dating is already hard enough, without making it even more difficult with online dating. I do know some people who online dating has worked out really well for.  But as for me, it’s just not my cup of tea. 

I did try it once though…. I was going through a dry spell and my friend kept jokingly saying I should join eharmony. I finally decided, what the heck, I’ll give it a try… why not!?  If anything, at least it will be something to write about.

So, I found someone on there… and everything that I mentioned above happened.  We had wonderful phone conversations.  I thought I had found the “one”.  We finally decide to meet in person.  I have all of these anticipations and expectations and him just being perfectly perfect and sweeping me off my feet.  Well, let me tell you… he wasn’t as attractive in person as his pictures lead on.  And he was SUPER ANNOYING… he talked A LOT and his voice was even annoying… and whenever I would say something sarcastic or jokingly.. he would take it seriously?!  Then he was also trying to be really touchy feely and affectionate, like this wasn’t the first time we had met in person… I couldn’t take it… and then of course.. he was all “in love” with me.  It took a while to get rid of that one… What a mess. 

Anyone have any horror stories from online dating??? Anyone have any good stories ???